oh what a difference a day (or two) makes
I have pulled it the f*ck together since the other night, let me tell you.
(And I’d be a ridiculous liar if I said that all of the wonderfully supportive comments and emails I received weren’t a big part of the pull-it-together fest, aka thank you.)
Here’s what’s up now: I am allowing myself to be sad when I’m sad. To miss him when I miss him. But even in acknowledging my sadness and giving it some room to breath, I have learned that I need to be careful of the nights, because the nights are the hardest times when you miss someone. The days can be difficult too, but the days (especially in California) are full of sunshine (sunshine!) and blue skies (blue skies!), two things that make it almost impossible to be unhappy.
And it’s not even just the nice weather, it’s everything that comes along with it- the flip flops (my favorite), the not having to wear a jacket, ooo and the sunglasses that are big and fun to hide behind. And of course there is the driving with the top down and the windows open and the blasting songs like Another Night by Real McCoy.*
And then there are my guilty pleasures…
1) Brushing my teeth in the shower. I have no idea why this feels so much better than brushing my teeth at the sink, but it does.
2) Drinking wine straight from the bottle.
3) Watching The Real Housewives of Orange County. Those are some funny bitches.
4) Picking at ingrown hairs. Satisfaction guaranteed.
5) Taking a spoonful of peanut butter and pressing chocolate chips and mini marshmallows into it and eating it all in one bite.
*I absolutely dare you to listen to this song without spontaneously busting into all sorts of dance moves.



Oh, your peanut butter chocolate marshmallow concoctions sounds sooo yummy!!
I have not thought about that song in like 9 million years!
I really could use some sunshine. These grey Chicago days are taking a toll on me.
now I’m gonna have that song in my head! Although I did just have Rockell - In a Dream on loop for like four hours.
And I’m sick right now, and that peanut butter concoction sounds like THE remedy.
Sometimes outside opinions can really help clear things up.
And YUM on the peanut butter concoction! I love pb with m&ms, too. Delicious!
I love another night. In fact I love all silly songs that make me dance like a maniac. I’m glad you’re feeling better, but so jealous that you’re somewhere that you get to wear sunglasses and flip flops. I CANT WAIT FOR SPRING!!!
And yes, brushing your teeth in the shower is MUCH better. It’s less messy too… no risk of getting toothpaste all over your clothes and stuff.
I LOVE the Real McCoy.. I am a 90s Pop!Fan through and THROUGH! Just thinking about it is making me smile really hard. Hahahaha.
And.. um.. ingrowns? I do that.
Those Orange County housewives? They slay me.. because they really are quite hi-larious. That’s one of those reality shows that I still pay an iota of attention to. Heh.
I think drinking wine straight from the bottle while watching Real Housewives of Orange County would be a good combination. Those women are indeed quite funny…
Glad you’re doing better (without just burying everything deep down inside until it gives you a tumor).
Glad you’re feeling better! And… I LOVE Real Housewives - such a guilty pleasure, but I can’t help myself!
booking ticket to nicoleantoinette, southern california immediately after finishing this comment.
(so happy you are feeling better, honeypie. can we arrange another phone call where i play real mccoy in the background?)
(p.s. LE SEX. SUCCESS.)
glad you’re feeling better and finding ways to keep yourself busy!
Being apart is hard, but relish this time. It won’t last forever. Sometimes I wish I could temporarily move to California to help open a cookie shop and get a little break.
Also, although you aren’t married, I think it is way cool that you are moving for awhile to do something for you. I’m married, many of my friends are married (I’m 27 btw, pretty damn young still) and I have so many friends who won’t even go on a weekend trip sans husband. It’s just a little infuriating.
I love the guilty pleasure of picking at ingrown hairs too. I even have special tweezers expressly for that purpose!
I too like to brush my teeth in the shower and pick at my ingrowns. Not sure why I do this, but as you said…totally satisfying!
“*I absolutely dare you to listen to this song without spontaneously busting into all sorts of dance moves.”
Real McCoy - I DID Bust into all sorts of dance moves to this song - I choreographed a dance to this when I was 12 at my summer camp!!!! HAHAHAHAHA I LOoooooooved this song!
I um…am a Runaway girl, rather than Another Night. Will you still love me? Also, I am so so so excited for this coming episode of the Real Housewives of the O.C. on Tuesday. How do you feel about the new one they’re putting out, about the Real Housewives of NYC?
(I’m so happy you’re feeling more…sunshine. I can’t think of a better way to put it. I just woke up. Sorry.)
I’m glad that you are feeling better and starting to find your equilibrium, and that you’re able to find pleasure in the little things. You are amazing and I am really impressed with what great perspective you have on this whole situation.
Yayy for you feeling better! I think acknowledging sadness is the best thing you can do. Weather in Boston is going to -1 this weekend, and probably similar in NYC. Sooo definitely enjoy that Cali weather and know that we’re all jealous of you!
And um, that spoonful of peanut butter? I NEED that RIGHT NOW. Thanks a lot for giving me a new guilty pleasure…
Teeth brushing in the shower. I’m all over that one. I’m not sure why, but you are right- it just feels better. Plus, I always feel like my teeth get cleaner. More importantly, I’m glad you are feeling better my dear.
If you think brushing in the shower is awesome, try flossing. Yay, is all I am saying.
LOVE real housewives of the oc.. Vicki is a crackhead on that show, but she is great television! I hope Lauri gets dumped though.. she’s annoying.
I’m SO glad you’re feeling better!! I am sending lots and lots of love your way. Drinking wine straight from the bottle is definitely one of the little pleasures in life. Especially if that wine cost $11, comes in a jug (aka Carlo Rossi), and you can lay it on your elbow and drink it like a pirate. Any hints as to what I’m doing RIGHT NOW??
The peanut butter/mini marshmallows/chocolate chip combination sounds nice!
Yay! So glad you’re feeling better! And you are one lucky chica with that lovely weather. You are not missing anything on the New York weather front.
Did you see the promo for The Real Housewives of New York City?? I’m thinking that it’s coming out next season, but I don’t know. I LOVE that show, those are some crazy bitches, especially the new girl (little blond one). And I think I have a great sweet recipe for you, I’m making it for tomorrow, it’s called the Five Layer Bars. You want?
I’m glad you are letting yourself be sad, it really can make a difference. I blogged about this awhile back, I’m not sure if you saw it, but I think it fits here:
Not being okay….with not being okay.
So glad you’re loving California just a little bit more. Drinking wine from the bottle can do that
My boyfriend loves to brush his teeth in the shower. Even if he brushed them earlier, once he gets in the shower, he brushes them again. It’s hilarious.
I can pick at ingrown hairs forever. Such a stress relief. I’m almost sad if I’ve just had them waxed and there’s nothing left to pick at.
On bad days I get home from work/school, throw my coat off and just go grab my tweezers. Makes everything better.
Number 3 = YES. Why is it so satisfying? I almost look forward to a couple ingrowns after a bikini wax.
My high school boyfriend decided that Real McCoy’s Sleeping with an Angel song was our song. At the time I swooned, now I get a little sick… but hindsight is always 20/20.
I agree so much about just allowing yourself to be sad, and not judging the sadness… that seems to be my downfall.
this is the 2nd post that made me burst into song and dance and get it stuck in my head today! what is going on? maybe i need to get some memorable songs in your head!
oh yeah … you are my “picker” life partner!
x’s & o’s
Yes it is wonderful to have Cali lickin your wounds girly! all I can say is I’m glad your going through normal feelings, and trying to deal with them instead of pushing them away or bottling. PS make a huge list of all th reasons you are happy right now, like being alone things, and just life things. Now post this in front of you rbed or where you’ll look at it everyday. Make sure its long, so everytime you look at it, you have plenty of reasons to feel good, and happy about yourself. Worked for me
you say all the things that I’m almost afraid to admit that I do as well.
haha…hilarious.
I’m sorry I’m so far behind and just now catching up everything! I always found the nights to be hard too, but even more so, early mornings were the hardest. Glad you found some really awesome things to be happy about